Thursday, May 23, 2013

Universal Fidelity Suffering and Self-Pity....

Suffering, grief, sorrow or Pain
Can't be big or plain?
Quantity's relativity
Is so disdain!!

I looked around and found that there is a bit of suffering in all that is around, wondering about quantifying it. 
I realized that sorrow is just sorrow cannot be quantified. 
Nobodies grief is bigger or smaller than anybodies. 
It simply is!!!

I was dumb struck ascertaining  how we unconsciously or consciously glorify misery. Captivating self assuring thought, all of us feel what we are facing is the ultimate grief. Displaying our batches of victory a way of gathering reassuring words- gratification. We tend to fabricate our efforts sounding victorious gaining self esteem. Learning is lost only stories remain in shared words. Spread with no real meaning plain grape wine-gossip.

A closer Look and I was dismayed at how ordinary seeming people can be battling so extraordinary pain.

There is misery all around so is the opportunity to evolve, grow, but the blind belief, egocentric approach.

 Most people ignore what is so evident universally, available source of growth learning. We have created a society where talking about our pain is looked down upon. Those who are brave enough to say they are battling with something, are thought of as naive, weak, immature and many such adjectives. 

Haunted by cruel memories of a past deed, an impulsive act or anything are treated differently under varied judgments passed secretly.

Humanity ignoring an omnipresent fact- Suffering, it is all around, every body's life is an example. Entire human race has a spiritual eternal learning to take and evolve into better beings. 

This is the meaning of life anyways. Evolution learning reaching higher ground from where we are or were is not possible without grief. All learning is difficult  even the most ordinary skills are learnt with great difficulty. Who then said that learning to live life is going to be any easy.

Does it help in anything, to be so restrained, bordered in sharing melancholy

I wish we mature and create a place where suffering and agony is shared respectfully.

There should be no judgments, right or wrong equations. 

What happens in one person's life is unique to them. Watching somebody Else's life, there simply is not enough view to judge. 

Mutual respect is vital for sharing. 

We must create a sacred world where non is demeaned for their sufferings, none for their wrong or right doing. 

Cause everything is relative to time and a moment alone. After that time is gone the relativity is lost we only arrive at conclusions. A learning evolution spirituality. The plethora of suffering is yet an unsolved mystery, we are pondering to reveal the secrecy.

To conclude here are two of my favorite poets and their poems around this theme:
  1. Sorrow's Uses by Ella Wheeler Wilcox
  2. If Grief for Grief can touch thee by Emily Jane Bronte

Sunday, May 12, 2013

Footprints ........

None would survive for eternity,
Maybe, footprints will!
Let me make you know me,

 through how I lived!!
There are not many who achieved their complete potential per their perseverance and found contentment complete bliss- living solace.
why we feel compelled to do things we would not choose-otherwise??

Haunted by this very question I searched myself and this write up is the resultant.
History has it written all over that great personalities were not built by choice alone they were meant to be- it was destiny. Reading this sentence it seems fundamentally wrong as we wrongly perceive that destiny is what we achieve easily.

Mahatma Gandhi did not think or choose to be the father of such a huge nation, driving an unheard movement, revolution. Brought so much change but it was not his choosing, he merely chose to go by the flow of situations and do the right thing in that moment. Personalities are made unintentionally. Who would choose misery willingly? He actually wanted to be a barrister, went out of country for higher studies, but landed being a revolutionist.

The course of our life is not defined by us at all, it is other things surrounding-situations making us.
Numerous times we reach a cross road capable of changing us for ever- there after.Do we genuinely get to choose?

My answer to this was-NO because the variables would leave no option but to make us choose what is to be chosen, seems difficult most times. We are driven by an unseen hand taking us where we ought to reach.Call it fate, destiny, Karma but it's there so imbibing on to our life's footprints.

Day by day minute by minute we are making history for what we see today right now in this moment will become a memory in the next moment. We all know this but how ironic it is that still we feel this is no reason to be the best we can be, to give each moment the best we can offer.

I am haunted sometimes with the reality that all I do is history for people who are yet to be. If we do not live each moment to the best of our standards we will be embedded in history with our weakness- faulty.

People who are great are great because they make the most of each moment. Not knowing their place in what is to come later, to illustrate this let us go back to the example of Mahatma Gandhi, he did not know the place and affect of his doing he was simply compelled to act.
It would be impossible to act if we know what it would mean tomorrow. We might be intimidated.

Another question that comes to me is are we that important to be noted, the answer is may be not that important to this moment right here but, surely a piece of a bigger picture which will reveal when this time is history. All pieces fall back in place- evolve.

We would be the center stage for what we created, hence all that we do each moment all the choices that we make or are compelled to make will make the tomorrow for us- our future image.

In my younger years I believed that a man is the sum total of all the choices he has made, but today after walking a little further on life's road I know for certain that our choices are not ours alone to be made, they are time, situation and circumstance bound .So I feel the best a man can do is accept the course with a smiling face.

The question is not about all the choices it is about the choice of accepting the course happily or choosing to fight it. I guess it is the ultimate question of all our lives. How we choose to be.

The thing about seeking truth is amusing we are happy when we don't know the complete truth  about things and sad very sad the minute it is revealed. Mystery is lost.

what makes us sad, is it the fact that the truth about things is not what we perceived it to be or we did not want it in the first place.Either ways the choice is ours to make as it seems but is it really !!

I am compelled by the scenario good ugly bad.Good would be the ideal and matches exactly to what we imagined, ugly would be different but acceptable and bad is completely opposite to our perceptions and seems not acceptable. But that often is the hand of fate bringing us closer to destiny.

The only choice that really is ours to make is weather to be happy or to be sad. All else is beyond reach, combined human destiny!!

“A Psalm of Life.....

Tell me not in mournful numbers,

Life is but an empty dream!
For the soul is dead that slumbers,
And things are not what they seem.

Life is real! Life is earnest!
And the grave is not its goal;
Dust thou are, to dust thou returnest,
Was not spoken of the soul.

Not enjoyment, and not sorrow,
Is our destined end or way;
But to act, that each tomorrow     
Find us farther than today.
Art is long, and Time is fleeting,
And our hearts, though stout and brave,
Still, like muffled drums, are beating
Funeral marches to the grave.

In the world's broad field of battle,
In the bivouac of Life,
Be not like dumb, driven cattle!
Be a hero in the strife!

Trust no Future, howe'er pleasant!
Let the dead Past bury its dead!
Act, - act in the living Present!
Heart within, and God o'erhead!

Lives of great men all remind us
We can make our lives sublime,
And, departing, leave behind us
on the sand of time;

Footprints, that perhaps another,
Sailing o'er life's solenm main,
A forlorn and shipwrecked brother,
Seeing, shall take heart again.

Let us then be up and doing,
With a heart for any fate;
Still achieving, still pursuing,
Learn to labor and to wait.” 

What is ? IS...

"A voice said, Look me in the stars
And tell me truly, men of earth,
If all the soul-and-body scars
Were not too much to pay for birth.
" - Robert Frost
Life grows with time like a molecule becomes a child and a child an adult and an adult then dies. has so many forms and there is definitely a great deal happening in the universe I feel, for all this energy and so much change there has to be a cause. A question asked many a times by humanity the purpose of all things existing the meaning of suffering.
Sometimes it feels what matters is me and that is it but the next minute the picture changes, shows that I matter to the cosmos. The greatest thing about greatness is that it does not know it's extent huge or small or else it will seize to be.
Nu ten did not know the greatness of the discovery of gravity and it changed the future of mankind. Galileo did not comprehend the effects of his theories but he knew he was right.
So I feel greatness is not you or me it is time, beyond all of us. Small deeds we are capable of performing are holding immense power to change a lot of things!

There definitely is a greater cause to where we are in our lives. We are just a connecting loop in the huge chain of events happening all around us. And only when we become history should the complete picture be revealed until then there is no cause to fight change, let us just flow.

Life is for sure certainty; each soul has a destiny and a mission to fulfill. There is absolutely no need to ponder and fight the destiny by desiring things which might not be in your destiny. So I quit desiring and begin to live each moment like it is. Like it is meant to be, for the greater picture will reveal my place in eternity. But a sacrifice done today will lay light on lot of things so let us just be. Letting go of what is , is important to embrace what is yet to be.

“Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin.” 
― Mother Teresa
“We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” 
― Joseph Campbell


“We don’t need a list of rights and wrongs, tables of dos and don’ts: we need books, time, and silence. Thou shalt not is soon forgotten, but Once upon a time lasts forever.”  ― Philip Pullman
“We don’t need a list of rights and wrongs, tables of dos and don’ts: we need books, time, and silence. Thou shalt not is soon forgotten, but Once upon a time lasts forever.”
― Philip Pullman 
Is this not the basic question we all must ask ourselves before deeds  are  done Ideally we should. The purpose of all education and fostering is to help us understand wright vs wrong, morally, socially, culturally. This debate exists at every place.
The sound of conscious is a constant struggle between the two logic’s right and wrong. And the answer is circumstantial, what seems right today can change another day and in a different set up.

You may get only one chance
To do what you think is right
For everything you do today
You will think about tonight

 A given deed can seem right in a particular set up and could be deemed out-rightly wrong in another situation.

How ironic it is that almost all times the logic to be wrong seems lucrative then to be right. Easier is to take the corrupt route and get everything, we want but the cost we pay is huge. I feel a deed is right if it benefits somebody, morality always is not the straight answer to being right. Responses are situational.
Making money can be a classic example, the objective is to be self-sufficient, but the means acquired to achieve them are crucial for ultimate satisfaction. Wealth alone is not enough.
We need balanced existence having family, social support, hobbies , spirituality etc. Together they make us complete. If one focuses only on the desire to be wealthy and ignores the rest he will be agonized, not living a worth it life!
On our journey to achieve things we desire if a wrong deed is done, harming somebody morally, economically or physically it will surface tomorrow, haunting us. It seems easy from the point of authority, position and power bestowed upon us from a situation to seek quicker gains by misusing these. There is a cost in being righteous and a penalty for being corrupt. The cost of being right is rewarded in long run karmic-ally. I believe in Karma.
It astounds me, often we are confronted by our past mistakes, yet the charm to take the easy course remains. Sad but true we posses no power to undo the past, the only thing that remains is to face the present.
I wish that we learn to question ourselves “Right or wrong”?I was asked this by my 3 year old in innocent words” Mamma what is right and wrong?”
I was silent and thought what to say to a toddler. Societies communities are struggling to figure out.

I could just manage saying right is right and wrong is wrong.